This past week a question was proposed to me that has had my mind spinning ever since. I have thought and thought about the answer and how it pertains to my life and I am unhappy to say I am struggling with this one. The question was how does living for the moment and finding my path correlate? How can you live in the moment and still seek a path and follow a plan? Since I can’t think this one through, please bear with me as I try to write my way through. Sometimes this works better for me.
Ever since Pat died…actually ever since Pat got sick, I have had a new perspective on life. My focus and understanding of the world has changed. I understand we only have a limited amount of time on this earth and I want to do with that time all that I can do. I don’t want to just sit and wait for time to pass me by with some days, or in ten years, or when I retire. I want to live and feel and be…NOW. I want to enjoy every second and do what I want to do during the time I have. I don’t know what tomorrow brings, or if it will even come. I am trying to follow my heart and make decisions on what feels right for me and my boys. Some of the decisions may seem a bit crazy, but I don’t want to be stuck in five, or ten years from now thinking I wish I would have. So I am trying to live for the moment and just be.
BUT…I am also searching for a new path; a new direction; a new purpose in life. Can I have both? I think I can. Yes, I want to be in the moment and live it how I want to live it, but I am human and I want more. I want to feel a purpose. I want to know that I have meaning. This could be to someone, or something. I want to share my life and build it with hopes and dreams for the future, but that doesn’t mean I have to wait to try to live those hopes and dreams. I think my idea of living in the moment with a path for the future means that I want to do all that I want to do now….not someday. If I want to write a book, then I want to do it now, not when the kids are older. If I want to travel and see the world, then I want to do it now,not when I have more money or I am more settled…that may never happen. There is never enough. If I want to spend time with someone, I want to do it now….not in ten years. I don’t want my life to be a destination, an end game or the plan for the future. I want it to be my life that I am living. Not I am living to have someday.
I get I can’t do it all or have it all today, right this moment. But I can do with my time all that I want to do. I don’t need to spend my time wasting away on wishes or some days. I know there is no guarantee for tomorrow, but I do have dreams and I see a path before me. I just want to live along the path and not just ride the escalator of life until I get to the point where it “makes sense” to start living the life I want to live. I think I can do both of living in the moment while setting out on a new path. The point is I want to live and I think that is what is most important here. Whether or not I decide to wait ten years before I do that, or start right this minute is up to me. I have to decide what this means and it doesn’t really matter what anyone else thinks of that decision. I think the beginning of my journey on this so-called new path of mine was the choice to continue to live forward. After that I can either decide to truly live or continue to wait in the waiting room for life to come my way. I don’t know about you, but I want to get out there and do it now. I could wait for something better, or a better time, or a better situation to make others happy, but perhaps all that really is telling me is that isn’t what is best for me. Because what is best for me is what makes me happy, what makes me a better mom to my boys and what will continue to lead me down the path of my life. I don’t want to find happiness….I want to live in it. There it is. That makes sense to me.
So I guess that’s my answer.