Here I am at another new beginning. After all I’ve been through in the past couple of years, my perspective on life has changed. I truly understand the meaning that tomorrow is not guaranteed. This journey I have been on has brought me so many unanswered questions. I have asked why? and how could this be happening? more times than I would like to admit. I have no answers for these questions. I don’t know why Pat had to die, or why the house had to be destroyed and rebuilt, or why I am now a widowed single mother of three young boys. I don’t think I did anything to deserve these challenges, but I think there is a reason for all of it. I don’t believe in coincidences, so there must be lessons to be learned or opportunities to embrace in order to live my life.
My life now…there is one thing I know for sure about this topic…I don’t want any regrets. I don’t want to spend my days doing things that do not fulfill me or lead me to happiness and peace. I have spent my past 42 years saying “someday”. Someday I want to write a book; someday I want to be a part of something bigger than me; someday I want to travel the world, go to Paris; someday I will find peace and be. Someday is not something I am promised. I have to go out and make that someday today. That is where I find myself at this moment.
I have been teaching for the past 5 years. I love my girls more than anything. I adore my co-workers and completely believe in the mission of the school I have been working, but I am not passionate about teaching. It has never been my love in life. It was a means to the end I really wanted. I have continued teaching because it supports my family and it’s where my experience lies and basically, it is who I am. But it’s not anymore.
I have jumped. I took the leap and quit the job. I am closing that chapter of my life and starting a new one. I am unsure about what that chapter is going to be about, but I am ready to start writing it. I am tired of thinking of someday. I want that someday to be today. If I fail, I fail. But there will be no regrets. Don’t get me wrong…I am scared shitless with this, but it’s something I have to do. This past year without Pat has been such a time of growth and reflection for me. I have continuously reevaluated who I am and what I want. The answer is pretty simple. I am a completely different person than I once was, that is for sure. I see things differently, I love differently and what I want is different. I don’t care about the little things, and honestly some of the medium size things. I am much more simple with the things that I want…peace, love and happiness. That is what I am searching for.
I recently took a college course on the study of the Bible. During this course we studied the Old Testament and the New Testament. It brought me a sense of peace and understanding to many things. What I found most interesting about the Bible was the two blank pages that fall directly between the Old and New Testament. There is nothing there, but so much took place during the time in between. This is how I see my place in the world right now. My old life has ended…the chapter has ended, the lessons learned, the love felt, the gifts given. But the next chapter is unknown and unwritten. I am living on those two blank pages. I am ready to find out what is next for me, but I am highly aware that these blank pages may last for some time and a lot of work will need to be done on those pages. But this is where I am. In between the old and the new. I am not the poor widow anymore who needs to be coddled and taken care of, but I am not yet the butterfly bursting out of the cocoon into new life. I am somewhere in the middle of the two. And I am okay with that. At least that’s what I need to keep telling myself in order to keep my focus.
I want to start anew. Everything is new in the past year…almost every aspect of my life has changed. Now I am ready to start anew with my career. I don’t want to settle and I don’t want to do something just to do it. I want to find my path in life and stick on it. What I am finding about this process is that there may not be something I want out there. I may have to make my own way. And again, I am okay with that….scared, but okay. Deep down inside I know I will figure it out and find my way. I don’t expect anything over night and I don’t think it’s going to be easy. But the one thing I know is that it is going to be on my terms. If I screw this up, I did it. I can’t blame someone else. And if I fail along the way, that’s okay too. At least I took the jump, took the chance and gave it my best try. No regrets and no looking back.
Embrace the moments you are given. Do with them what you can. Appreciate what you have. Love those around you. Don’t forget to say I love you, I’m sorry and I forgive you. Tomorrow is not guaranteed. Make today what it is…a new beginning; another chance to get it right. Don’t worry about what may or may not come tomorrow. Focus on what matters today and do what you love. Live from your heart and be open to whatever comes your way. With this focus and this determination, I know I will find my way.